Trusting people

An excellent series of testimonies of domestic violence on ABC Four corners fails to  direct attention to what we can all do about it ;

1. Recognize the signs .  
2. Establish the facts - "does this person relate well to their parents ? - if not:     beware
   
   People are too trusting .

We all ought to beware of children who grow up from an early age without boundaries; thinking they can and must control their environment.Seeking control but with no respect for boundaries,
Mothers,Fathers friends and family need to remind their loved ones that marrying someone who has grown up that way is dangerous. We are all dangerous .
One of the reasons maybe we don't talk about it is because marrying anyone is always a risky  thing .
ANGER - rejection of our person
The point is that conflict and anger ( eg rejecting who I am or feeling rejected for being who I am ) will occur. God rejects us as we are,  so why wouldn't some one else who loves us too? Sometimes rejected for right reasons , sometimes rejected because we observers have flawed vision .the control freak can be  daily lost because dep down he does not know where to rest in himself /herself . These things used to be taught in  Sunday School - how to accept yourself  To love yourself .

After all ,after God , our partners are the ones who see we are not perfect . Our partners , also like God don't always like what we do and say even though they may believe in us . Understanding what "believing in us "means is at the heart of this issue .
Luther the angry man found self acceptance by being honest with himself - noone sins the daylight he said - so don't be deceived about what you see in your mirror  , You are going to have to forgive yourself and your partner. Love is not about being nice ;That's often what con men and con women specialize in. Love seeks renewal and restoration  through confession , confrontation and repentance


The reason why there is epidemic of DV is because post modernism does not talk effectively to dealing with anger and evil,  power and person. It does not accept and therfore deal deal with the sins we commit every day. maybe DV should be called denial violence.

Behaviorism and denial of original sin ( there are just good and bad people )provides  no alerts other than behavior ( which is too late/slow )
This blinkered post Christian idea  doesn't tell us that we are all capable of bad and we are all going to have to deal with real anger in our marriages and with our children

Young people's vulnerability to radicalization in the West

Comes from the Wests own deep weakness and confusion in moral teaching .

Its not going to work to just "blame those who havva religion " Jung et al said we all have one so whose in denial? Kids want something more than whats being offered by the empty religion of "everything will work out if you do your own thing philosophy";  that is unaccountable godless selfcentredness".unsustainable eating theory.  Material world - where you can have everything, but eventually you us others  will find a huge hole in the centre.
Instead of taking our historical lead from Yahweh  that its OK to be angry,  we are in denial of it . Ideas have consequences and we are getting the consequences of crap ideas of convenience .Not dealing heathily with anger and frustration ( empty donuts) can lead to depression
Instead of potent Christianity we have turned its punchy practicality into woosy wobbling on moral matters.Its only taken a few short years for our kids to be not educated and innoculated ( how to think) in the great medicine of health and freedom that was the Wests for thousands of years before .

Anger cannot be a sin by definition because it comes forward as a natural response from being threatened . Adrenalin and all that . Social Darwinist s, morass relativists and sentimental post moderns  ( who only  think they are progessive Christians?)  are living in denial - both scientific and scriptural .
How can this be ? --we re all so rational here . Sorry but we are not as progressive as we like to think We like to think we use rationality here like it was bread  ( as we do with science)  .-- No that's fiction  when it comes to us / we/ them . We are really like Eve and Adam and are into naming causes other than ourselves ( Jung)
 We are blind to what we don't wanna see . Our houses of cards are full of strong single focused persons who we give permission to eat up us with our own pure and simple logic about sel and self interest . We become men weakened by their own pedantry and self willed compromises and confusion over what is really true . The truth can still set us free,  but only if we face it. .There is no ultimate power but the power we create -----or is there ?.We will find out one day .

There should not be any doubt about this new heretical teaching as Yahweh tries to talk to Cain about his anger lest he sin and kill somebody .

The God of the Bible is not on the sidelines,  he's just not being heard . People see but do not see,  hear but do not hear . Tell that in confession to your mother, or your partner sometime . Its the sort of metanoia, catharsis and tipping point  that might just prevent us going back to prison instead of the greater freedom we have had in kingdom theory for the last few thousand years . Luke 13 Be happy -think clearly and act succintly before the sun goes down . PM Turnbull is wrong to offer more endless experimentation --not a mugs game but its wasteful toy in the arcade where dumb wannabes wanna play.

Prison you say ? Well the daughters of Eve and Adam are telling us -- you don't protect us anymore . You allow us to roam the streets and commit active rebellion as if it were our God given right -- good for us like never growing up has been good for you? >You are the stupid ones ,,not us . You are the softies,  not us . We want what you had -families  fidelity and honor .   You never taught us any of that really . We would be happy just to have a better framework for marriage and the other than you offer . Islam does that .

Don't focus on the guns.  That would be to remind us how superficial unsubstantial and reactionary you are . Go listen to our hearts - they are yearning burning not to be grown up babies  like you are with your wars on everything 

Violence - who started it or who or what is going to stop it ?

People are angry and risk irrationality and the irrational and terrible acts that can follow  . What if all this careless targeting/badging of radicalization should really focus on anger and why its generated in the context. we don't have to know all the words and all the connections.
We need to know though basically why others are angry, otherwise their anger will only make us more angry and irrational too .  In my experience with youth prone to violence ( lot of us) it only takes one careless word from an adult like their parents about a group in our society ( be they teachers, preachers or media personalities) and some kid 's attitude to others can be completely ruined .
Violent words are rightly prosecuted in our legal system the same as violent acts. “ who started it?”
Who amongst us is free from guilt in this respect?   we all disobey the 8^th Commandment even if we do it oh so subtly.
 All we can do is talk to the tongue as a fire and ask for forgiveness.  The fire will burn but God comes with forgiveness and the way forward.  The family whose child went wild this week may need such help.